Taking Up Space

There are so many words traveling around in my head that I just can’t get them organized.  They are taking up space.  Some of the words are nice words, they are praise words, they are the ones that should be taking up all the space.  But the ones that are taking up the most space right now are big longs words.  Words like frustration, incredulity, irritation, annoyance, and chagrin.  They are taking up so much space that “words fail me”.

My husband has a quote about taking up space.  “Don’t let ___ rent space in your head.”  It doesn’t matter what the situation is, if you are obsessed with it and can’t let it go, it is renting space.  He also says you are “Giving it free rent.”  Sometimes I give situations too much free rent.   I find letting go very difficult, depending on the situation.

We (mostly my husband) have been cleaning the different spaces in our home.  Trying to whittle down the things that have accumulated over the years.  Through this process we are learning about our differences regarding what we consider a keepsake and what is just taking up space.   The discussion was enlightening and I actually had to think about why I considered something with absolutely no monetary value a keepsake.  Yes, I was keeping some of them for sentimental value, something from a great grandparent, or a grandparent.  Those are the things that keep me linked to family, that tie me to the past, that remind me that there is a family out there that this dysfunctional generation can look back on and remember that it wasn’t always this way.

Other things that I have kept don’t have sentimental value, they are things that remind me of situations that I never want to be in again.  I have actually thrown away quite a bit of those negative items in the last few years.  Yet I retain some, I find it difficult to throw away these reminders because in my search for healing they were the things that helped me to overcome the anger and bitterness I felt towards the individuals they remind me of.  I am finding though that the more I throw away of these items, the more at peace I become.  I am emptying that negative space, opening it up for more positive things to take its place.

It seems my words are finally coming together, the frustration is leaving, the urge to break something has diminished.  I am finally beginning to relax.  What kind of things are you letting have “free rent in your space”?  Are they positive or negative?  Are they connected to things that you can actually throw away and free more space then just what is in your head?


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