Comfort Zones

My Dear Hubby David and I have two wonderful grown children.  They have flown the coop.  During all of our married life there was a child involved in one way or another so we never really had the alone date nights that most couples have.  Having had the boys with us all the way through our 26 years of marriage when It was time for them to head off one by one, either to college or to the military, the empty nest hit us pretty hard.  When our oldest one left home while our youngest was still in high school one of the things that we did to over come those was to create a standard date night for just the two of us.  We didn’t hold to that schedule all the time over the last years and the ones where we didn’t put our relationship first were very hard years.  We have learned our lessons from that time and now make sure that every week we go out on date night.  We have developed our comfort zone and it is working for us.

Comfort zones are funny things.  I think that they are more created habits than anything else.  We get in the habit of driving one way to work – our comfort zone – and then there is road construction and we have to find a new route.  We get in the habit of not talking in large crowds -our comfort zone – and then we have to do a presentation to a larger organization of strangers.  We get in the habit of being home bodies – our comfort zone – and then we make new friends that want us to visit out regularly.  We get in the habit of eating certain foods – our comfort zone – and then a plate of strange new food is placed in front of us.

Our comfort zones are those things that give us comfort, they make us feel protected, they don’t challenge us to do new things.  They start to stifle our creativity, our eagerness to learn new things, try new things.  They block the potential that you have for great things because you are afraid to step out side of that comfort zone.

I recently started doing art, (actually it was last year about this same time) I was very uncomfortable when I started.  I had been told once a long time ago that I couldn’t draw and that creative side of me was stifled for a long time.  Most of the art work I created was on the computer using Microsoft Paint.  It was easy to do and if I didn’t like it, it was easy to delete.  It was only during counseling after I showed my dear friend my computer drawings and she asked if I had any paper drawings that I realized that my comfort zone was being challenged.  She suggested that I get a small drawing pad and just start putting something on paper.  I did that for a while, but would not put color to it.  Once again pencil was easy to erase and I could get rid of my mistakes (nothing permanent or lasting).  She put a stop to that and challenged me to pick up a pen and really attempt to create something permanent.  She let loose a monster, I have been creating a lot this last year, and actually selling some things.

Now my husband has asked me to step out of my comfort zone again with two different projects.  Both of those projects are for a program we (he) is starting at our church called Celebrate Recovery.  It is a Christ centered, Bible centered recovery program to help people recover from hurts, hang-ups, and habits.  The first project is a custom designed pick guard for his Fender Stratocaster guitar.  I am not going to be able to draw in pencil first or be able to erase those unwanted lines when I make mistakes on this project.  I am really stepping out of my comfort zone on that one.  The second project is painting a set of Russian Nesting Dolls.  I am going to have to step into a whole new form of creating – using paint and paint brushes and making messes and spilling stuff.  What better program could I be doing this for than for a program that is designed to help people heal and overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits.

I am going to have to step out of my hurts, hang-ups, and habits – my comfort zones – and step into trust and believing that the one true God, the one that knows all things and sees all things, knows exactly how to guide my hand with each project to create the right images that will help to bring others closer to their own healing.

We are doing this Celebrate Recovery program at our church – The Church at Sandhurst – and we still need people that will step up, step out of their comfort zones.  We still need leaders, volunteers, and musicians.  You do not have to be a member of the church to assist with this program.  It is open to everyone.  If you want to help, to step out of your comfort zone you can contact my Dear Hubby David at 843-992-4354.  He is the ministry leader for the program and will give you all the needed information and get you “plugged-in” to the spot that best fits you and your comfort zones.

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