Time – Is it Really Just A State of Mind

“Life is all about timing…the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable…attainable.  Have the patience, wait it out.  It’s all about timing.”  Stacey Charter

I just looked at the last time I posted to my blog.  Wow, January, it has been much longer than I thought.  I will come up with a topic while driving and then by the time I get home, it will have gone away or I will have decided that the topic was too trivial based on what was going on at the time.

This time I want to write about the concept of time.   We all know that there are 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, etc. etc. etc.  That is not the kind of time I want to talk about.  I am more interested in the time that we spend with the people we love.  Do you think to yourself: “Oh, I really need to call_______” you can fill in the blank with one, two, three, or even more names.  Then before you realize it it is midnight and much much too late to call them.  I find myself doing that all the time.

What about actually going to see that person, or those people?  Do you actually sit down and make a plan and follow through with it?  or Do you make excuses?  “I can’t leave work.”  “I don’t have enough money.”  “I need to use my vacation for something else.”  I find that I have made way to many excuses over the years.  Yes, there was the little problem of finances, but I never did anything about that like save $20-25 dollars from each paycheck.  Just add it up.  If you get paid twice a month and save $20 dollars from each check you would have $480 at the end of the year.  Just add $5 more dollars and you would have $600.  That could easily buy round trip tickets to somewhere.

My most recent excuse for not taking a vacation and going to see family:  “I just got promoted to this position.  I can’t justify taking a week of vacation during this next year.”  Let me tell you right now, that excuse is hogwash.  I was never told by management that I could not take a vacation.  I placed that on my own shoulders.  I did it because I was in a new position and I treated it like I was a new hire that had yet to earn vacation time through longevity.  Yet my vacation time keeps adding up.

I kept telling myself, I really need to go see one family member or another.  Distance shouldn’t matter.  But it does.  When you have a family that is scattered all over the country, how do you pick the one or ones that you go see.  It was easy when my Grandparents were alive.  We all just congregated at their house.   Want time to see family, pick up the phone and make plans to go to Grandmas on a certain date.  It usually worked out that we (my 5 siblings, my mom, and I) could all be there at the same time.  Except for some reason my older sister and I have never been able to get it coordinated.  Usually she could go the week before or the week after the week I could go.  Now, it has been almost 20 years since we saw each other face to face.   Our children have grown up, gone to college, gotten married, had children, joined the military, and gotten divorced in that time.  They only know each other through the phone calls my sister and I made to each other and then reported what was happening in each others lives.

I am going to see my sister again in a few short weeks, but it is for all the wrong reasons.  I am going to go say goodbye to her oldest son.  He left us much too early in his life.   Time, he didn’t have the time to let time pass.  He wanted it all – a family, a wife, kids, a good job, a nice home.  But he didn’t have the time to let those things happen.  Life was over at 30, he felt that he would never be able to have those and now he never will.  He took time in his own hands and made it stop.  But time only stopped for him.  It continues to go on for the rest of us.  No, we don’t have all the time in the world; we are all born and we all die.  No, time does not heal all wounds; some wounds are much too deep.  But we have to give time the chance to work magic in our lives.  Time to meet the right person, and have the kids and share the love and joy in life.  Now, we need to give time the chance to give us peace.

I don’t know who said this but it is so very true: “Don’t count every hour in the day, make every hour in the day count.”  Take the time now to pick up that phone and make that call you have been meaning to make.  Take time to tell your family and friends that you love them.  Take time to tell a complete stranger on the street to have a wonderful day and give them a smile when you do.  You may save a life that way.  Take time to show others that you care.  Take the time to enjoy each moment you are given and never take time for granted.


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